SYNOPSIS
Three siblings, eldest was abit dumb so he wasn't earning much. The second one was into property and living quite well at first. The youngest was into direct sales and earning some big bucks. Well it started with Three of the having dinner with their mother and then condemning the Singaporean government. Later the eldest brother then ask for some tips of getting money. So he ended up becoming a "MANYZER" for the sales line. Story went well that all of them were enjoying life with their money. Later slowly they got into trouble... (as usual la) So all of them went like penny-less. All of them went back and borrowed money from their mother. The mother of course gave everything to them. Without hesitating. Then one day the mother got alzimer disease. So the three brothers again held a meeting of what to do. First they decided to take turn taking care of her. Later they couldn't stand it anymore and well sent her to old folks home. When she got to know it she fell and was admitted into the hospital. During one emergency where the mother needed blood, the daughter of the second son got into accident and needed blood as well. (Movie rite?) Oh yeah! They are of the same blood type O-. So the hospital only have 2 packets but not enough for both. The wife of the second son when running towards the daughter and snatched the blood from the doctor. Oh well... As they were quarreling, the mother heard it and she pulled something out (it's needed to support her life), and passed away.
You should watch the damn Movie! It will really make you go into deep thought and repent on the things you've done...
Now, enter the main topic. Which is dedicated to my mom. Don't get me wrong. She's not dead yet. She just got back from a charity tour. Still bloody healthy that she can attend yoga class 2-3 times a week. On friday she called me to do a research for her from the internet on Chinese Medicine Courses. She wants to attend it. Details later.
(Sorry for those who experienced bad childhood caused by their mother.)
I believe that most mothers are somehow the greatest person in their children's life. Well at least my mom is. Let me show it in a chronological form in our life.
1. Before you come to this world.
Well, scientifically, life starts when you're... made... It takes usually two months after you're being made for your mother to start to get to know that you're here! However, during the crucial two months, if you accidentally came out earlier, you already hurt your mom's heart. She had been waiting for you to come, but not in this form. She lost you. She would cry and mourn and everything to express or to relieve her pain of losing you! Well suppose you did not come out at that earlier. Your mom would have find out after 2 months. Don't mention how happy she was at that time, just think of what she had done before you have even come out to breath in this world. You watch tv? See those Mamil Gold? Anfa MAMA? She drank that to make sure you are healthy inside! Sometime you bloody fool you don't like certain food, you make her vomit it out! The days of her suiting into your life had already started long before you are here. Until the day you are ready to face the new world, she had to endure almost 24 hours of labour pain! Not to mention the pain during the time she was giving birth to you! Especially if you are someone who are born to be big like me! Do you know how much her vagina has to expand to allow you to come out? If you still can't go through that, 2 options, cesarean or cut the vagina. Either one would mean PAIN to her. Simple because it had to be done without anesthetics. She had suffered before you come to live in this world.
2. Finally you pop into this world.
a. When you have no idea what is happening.
If you mom was lucky enough. She survived. Otherwise, the moment you take you first breath would have been her last breath. Let us not discuss on that or else the story ends here. Now that you are here, the time of your mom worrying for you has begun. When the doctor held you up and spank your ass. You mom felt the pain the same time as you cried. On the other hand, if you don't cry, she would be so worried that if you are alright?
Now slowly you are growing, mom tried to provide us with the best they can give. Go to the place where they place the milk powders. Look at the price. Bloody hell! The milk that was said to have dunno what DHA AHA SA CIA ACA SIA AIA whatever A la! It is suppose to help your brain cells connect together so that you can study better and become more intelligent. Did I mention the price was like RM60+ for a small can of it? Compared to those without A's its like 3 times more expensive. However the damn thing is out of stock. So just when we barely know anything, mom has already put everything they have on us. Well during my time there's no such thing with all the A's la.
b. (fast forward >> You are a cute little innocent kid now)
Yeah! Entering childhood! Play time! Most of us considered childhood are suppose to be play time. We enjoyed our times during childhood. Well not every moment. I remembered I don't get much toys because I am a boy so erm... My dad kinda had higher expectation on me. So not much toys. Oh come on! How can a child live without toys? Despite knowing my dad will be mad at her, my mom bought me toys. Oh well, he did got mad. Thinking of that time, it has become a laughing stock between me and mom. Hey, she sacrificed for this idiot here you know! Why would she do that? She loved you my dear, she loved you!
c. Teenage! Rebels READY!
During the period of our life, we are most rebellious. We don't care what they say, we want to have it our way! We will crap all they stupid things to make sure we get what we want or to save our ass. Went we run out of idea, we shouted back at her. Well sometimes she just kept quite and let us win. Knowing that she wouldn't be able to change our mind. However she still hope that we can change. In case of emergency, she would resort to hitting us. Ever heard of Newton's Third Law Of Motion? It's simple action and reaction. He said that when an object A acts on another object B with a force F. The force F will be reacted on the object B the moment it touches object A. In our case, if she used a cane. The same law will apply. Just that we felt the pain on our physical body, the pain reacted on her mentally. Mom scolded us because she cared for us. She beat us because she loved us!
d. Entering University
Holy crap! This time finally come! I can leave her now. If you are thinking like this, I suggest you shut the computer after reading this paragraph and climb up the tallest building you can find around your house and jump down from there. You rascal. She had been waiting for this moment too! But not with the heart that you can leave her! She is putting all her hope on you that you can be independent! You can take care of yourself! You can survive when she's gone! That is why she sent you out! Especially if you are boys.
e. I got my Degree! I got paid 10K a month for my first job!
Alright alright, the happiest person now? No not you. Mom. You have finally got something in your life. You can now live your own live which you have wanted and waited for 25 years. You can literally forget about her already! No no no! Then people will say I am a bad child if I do so. I better send her money every month. I think 100 will do la, since she got EPF. Oh yeah, then I will go and visit her every month and erm erm... Bring her out for dinner in some 5 Star restaurant. Yeah! That will do. Most of you will do so. I am avoiding myself of behaving in such way. I am still undergraduate. Now, like you said, she has EPF, she doesn't need your money. When you are 25, your mother will be like 50 already. Becoming senior citizen already. She already can't eat much, she don't spend much. So why she need your money? All she want is that you can live a better life than what she had lived. At the same time. She wanted her child back! She needs someone to be with her. Someone whom she loved most! A guy will lose his wife when he had his children.
3. When Mom is old and ill.
Everyone has to go through this unless you khi cia (die) earlier. So mom is not exempted from this. Even the greatest person on Earth had to grow old. She had too. Now she's old, the need of someone taking care of her is greater! Please! Even in this era, I know you don't have the time because you have you wife and your kids to entertain! You have your "business" partners to entertain to. So much so that you don't have the time to take care of your mother. Then you will sit down with you siblings and discuss who to take care of her? Well the "who" is not the siblings, the "who" is MAIDS! Or whose house is better? Whose house have better feng shui? Whose house she can meet more old folks? Where they have more people to attend to them. I mean this can't be helped. When I was 14, my teacher asked us to write an essay on "What Will You Do When Your Mother Gets Old". Well I said I would send her to old folks home in the morning and pick her up in the evening. My idea was letting her stay at home is bloody dangerous. Considering she is lack of knowledge in the electronic stuff, I thought it would be best if she can be at some place where she is save. Just imagine what if she tried to cook something and she forget to turn off the stove? She would have burnt the house, never mind since we are earning 10K a month rite? The worst is that she couldn't get out of the house in time! She will be burnt to death! So that was my idea. Oh well I dunno whether she likes it or not? However she smiled when my teacher told her that.
4. Her final journey.
Now that she is walking towards the end. By that time, you are already in your 40s or 50s. No matter who you have to entertain, please, come back to her, be with her, this is a true story. But its my grandfather. The night before my grandfather passed away, they doctor had announced the bad news that he wouldn't have to change to see another sunrise. That night he shouted in pain, all of his children were there except my uncle (not his own) who was in out station, he was rushing back. My grandfather wanted to see him for the last time. He hold onto the pain and waited in pain until the next morning. The moment my uncle came in and held his hand and call him. He smiled and shut his eyes. Even a father would have waited for his son, not to mention mother! So please, we know we couldn't do anything, so let us just make her happy for the last time if that is not the only time you can make her happy.
Let her feel the warmth in you before she leaves you for real.
to be continued...
